After watching a particular episode of that train wreck of a television show, “Jersey Chasers LA” (Basketball Wives, LA) it got me wondering if these women REALLY know what a “jump off” really is. In case you don’t watch (and I wouldn’t blame you), there is a young woman on the show named Draya Michelle (who’s real name is Andraya Howard) who is an ex-stripper turned model/actress that most of these washed up Basketball Baby Mamas appear to be jealous of and keep calling her a ”jump off”. As a matter of fact, she is the ONLY one on the show NOT currently involved with, having been engaged or married to or have any children with a basketball player. Yes, she may have actually slept with a few ballers in her young life but of all of these women on the show, WHO HASN’T? Sleeping with ballers is how they ALL got on the show! DUH!? They are hating on her because they probably USED to BE her. It’s like looking at themselves in the mirror and the chickens coming home to roost.
The “Urban Dictionary” definition of “jump off” is a mistress or a person that is usually only being used for sex while in marriage or serious relationship; The chick (or man) on the side. The term “jump off” has been around since 2003 when rapper Joe Budden released the wildly popular hip hop song “Pump It Up”. There were a few lines in the song that introduced the “jump off” concept:
”My jump off doesn’t run off at the mouth so much, My jump off never ask why I go out so much, My jump off never has me going out of my way, And she don’t want nothing on Valentines Day, My jump off don’t argue or get rebellious, And she don’t mind hanging out wit da fellas, My jump off’s not insecure or jealous”
This show ”Basketball Wives” should just be called “Jump Offs 2.0″ because they have all taken being a former jump off to a new level and parlayed it into ghetto television gold. They give athlete jump offs around the world hope. They make is appear that being an athlete’s jump off will get you a television show, endless shopping sprees, luncheons and social status. The only two people on this show who are ACTUALLY married to ballers are Jackie Christie and (Laquisha) Malaysia Pargo. Jackie has been married to Doug Christie for 16 years but has recently revealed that this is her 3rd marriage. She met Doug the same year that he was drafted (a coincidence?) and married him 4 years later. Was she a jump off? Probably! She is best known for traveling the country with Doug and shielding him from ANY potential groupie that may have had their eyes set on him, up to and including women sports reporters. Did she have the inside track on how jump offs work? Malaysia met her husband Jannero Pargo at a party in LA which is prime groupie/jump off territory and her real name is Laquisha who’s from Compton, need I say more…likely started as a jump off.
Many of the other ladies are CONFIRMED previous jump offs. There was much controversy surrounding Laura Goven during the Basketball Wives Miami first season. Although we had never seen her until this season, her sister Gloria spent most of the first season defending Laura’s alleged affair with Shaq, who was Shaunie O’neal’s husband at the time. What I want to know is when did she have the time to fit Shaq in when she has been in an on-again, off-again relationship with Gilbert Arenas for 10 years and have 4 kids with him? Perhaps it was BETWEEN the many break-ups that she had with Gilbert Arenas. Who knows? She was one of the MAIN ones to consider Draya a jump off. Then there is Imani Showalter who used to be engaged to Stephen Jackson. He called off their wedding on the day of, when she REFUSED to sign a prenuptial agreement. She was so desperate for a baller that she lied about her age, lied about having an additional child and half paid attention to the child she DID tell him about according to the blogs. She really had the nerve to let the cameras film her interactions with her children about how “daddy” didn’t really love them or send them anything. Well only ONE of those children ACTUALLY belong to the DADDY that they are referring to! It seems that she is no better than Draya (see child endangerment story on blogs). Aren’t these the wigs calling the weave fake?
These shows are designed to create a “hater” atmosphere. There is a lot to be said about women who spend so much time “judging” other women for their indiscretions. While I don’t have much respect for women who exclusively date married men, I’m not going to go out of my way to bash women who do. I just know who to keep my eye on if they are in my inner circle. I don’t wage a full out hate campaign against them. The key is TRUST in your OWN relationship. I trust that my husband wouldn’t try to sleep with any of my friends or acquaintances. When you judge other people, your character tends to come into question. This is what is happening with the women on this show and it happens in real life.
Let’s get to the REAL issue at hand: THEY ARE ALL HATERS with low self-esteem. They all took one look at Draya and saw that she was a very pretty young women with a nice body (one that they WISH they still had or the money to buy). They know she still has the tools to STILL snag ballers while they are washed up in the “baller circle”. YES, she has some baggage but WHO DOESN’T? It’s a dog eat dog world out here when it comes to women. We know that we outnumber men so they have a huge selection of women to choose from so the quicker we can discredit the competition, the better our perceived chances of moving up on the dating food chain are. This is why many women are content to start off as jump offs because they truly believe that they can HATE their way to the number one spot. You can always spot a jump off because they will always be the one’s on the sideline hating on and trying to point out the flaws of the girlfriend or wife to try to make themselves appear to be the better catch. If you are a jump off who is successful at getting an upgrade, good luck holding on to that relationship because you’ll probably have to cling to him like Saran wrap or Jackie Christie to keep him from getting a replacement jump off!